Monday, 20 June 2016



Flaws, Flaws, Flaws

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Ah that horrible little niggle you have when someone points a certain something out that you know is your weak spot. We all have flaws and we all know they aren't invisible. Flaws is an interesting word, as it can relate to any imperfection, mentally or physically. I believe that there is not one person on this earth that believes they are flawless, we all have that one thing that we are just not happy with [even Queen Bey!] 

I decided to write this post as I recently decided to tackle one of my own body 'imperfections' that I have always been unhappy with. It all started in PE [about age fourteen, those hideous teen years] when a boy joked that the veins on my legs made me look like a heroin addict. Yep, ten years on and that comment still goes through my mind when I wear a skirt or whenever my legs are on show. Throughout my whole life, I have always been so self concious about my legs and have always felt like I needed to cover them up. Obviously friends and family always told me they weren't that bad, but actually it was my closest friend and family that helped and encouraged me to do something about it.

So varicose veins, not exactly the prettiest, but something that has been with me ever since I can remember. Not many people are aware of how horrible varicose veins can be and people often shrug them off as a 'condition' which is not very serious. And yes, it isn't that serious, I am probably not going to die, but the constant aching whenever I did exercise and throbbing when I had been for a long walk was just enough to finally tip me over the edge. A lot of people don't realise that it can occur in younger people but I can tell you for free, it definitely does! After lots of backwards and forwards, I decided to do something about it and finally finally finally I am having them removed after lots of waiting. 

I realise that when you are unhappy with a part of your body, surgical procedures is not always the answer and often not right for that particular person. But maybe, just maybe, we should stop making people feel bad about their imperfections. Because lets be honest, we all have them.

Charlotte x

24 comments:

  1. You are right and this is a beautiful post. We all have our flaws and they nag at us all the time. Let's face it, the boy from your PE has some flaws too! xo

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    1. Aw this really made me smile - thank you for reading!

      Charlotte x

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  2. Ohh nice! I love this. Thanks for sharing.
    xx Ohiamiht Blog

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  3. What a lovely post, Charlotte. We all have some kind of flaws. The key to happiness is being able to accept them and not worry what other people think.

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    1. I completely agree, thanks for reading Izabela!

      Charlotte x

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  4. Ah, teenagers can be so cruel - I'm so sad that the boy's comment has stuck in your head, though like you've said we all have flaws and most likely have all had them pointed out to us at some point! I hope your operation goes really well... and that you wear skirts and shorts for the rest of your life without concern! :)

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    1. I know, people can be so mean but I think its just learning from it! Thanks, just resting up now and looking forward to the summer!

      Charlotte x

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  5. I can completely understand how you feel as I have them myself, they do make you really self conscious.

    Gemma x
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    1. Aw it can really hard to explain to someone that hasn't got them but I have always been so concious!

      Thank you for reading, Charlotte x

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  6. Flaws are what makes us unique and beautiful. Being natural is gorgeous, we need to accept our flaws and love them, nobody is perfect!

    XoXo,

    Tamara - LoveofMode.com

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    1. Completely agree Tamara!

      Charlotte x

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  7. This was such a wonderful read! I've never looked or dressed in a way that was conventional and for ages I was so down on myself about it but getting older has taught me that flaws are totally natural and actually make us ourselves - and that's beautiful x
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    1. I completely agree, sometimes you just have to think, sod it and grab that skirt!!

      Thanks for reading, Charlotte x

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  8. I say 'sod it and just embrace it'. And yes, I wish people would stop pouting out other's imperfections, I know what you're going through because I faced it too. I grew up with a family member kept reminding me how thin my hair is, how fat my face is, what a pity I have such a small chest and for years I had zero body confidence. Good on you to do something about it that makes you happy.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. That's the thing, people don't understand how it affects you!!

      Thanks for reading, Charlotte x

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  9. Ah what a d***! People dont realise how throwaway comments can affect someone! Good luck with the removal though I'm sure they look fine!

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  10. People can be very cruel and vicious can't they, especially kids. When I was younger I was bullied all the time, about my weight, thick eyebrows, frizzy hair etc. etc. Adults can be pretty insensitive too, but I find that kids are mega vicious. Anyway, I'm glad that you can finally get a procedure done to help you out, what anyone else thinks doesn't matter but as long as it makes you happy, that's all that counts. :) Kisses! x

    Kay
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    1. Yes absolutely, sometimes you just have to rise above it, but it's hard!!

      Charlotte x

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  11. Firstly this was such a great read and so inspiring so thank you for sharing! My mum has very bad varicose veins in her legs too and not only does she suffer from a lot of pain from them, they also really affect her confidence when wearing skirts and dresses. And I personally really suffer from a lot of insecurities and it's a daily struggle of it affecting what I wear and my confidence. But you're so right we all have flaws and the things that bother us personally and we put too mych pressure on ourselves. I think it's great you're speaking out and that you've decided to have the surgery and I really hope it all goes well for you! Katie xx

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    1. Aw thank you Katie, lovely to hear that! Its so sad that words not only from other people but also ourselves can damage our confidence and view of ourselves! Sometimes we just have to say enough is enough and go for it!

      Charlotte xx

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  12. I actually didn't realise this could occur in younger people so it was interesting to hear your story. I think surgery is totally reasonable if its thought through properly, which you clearly have so I'm really excited for you :) I also get what you mean about those 'flaw' comments sticking with you. My friends and I were on a night out in uni and a group of boys asked their friend to 'rate' me - he said my thighs were too wide. Thats really stuck with me but, thanks to the likes of Kim K and Beyonce I can embrace my pear shape these days. I still love to think he got his fair share of karma for the comment though! Haha x

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    1. Some people can be so mean sometimes but I think they don't realise that a stupid comment can really affect us! And I don't blame you about the karma!

      Charlotte x

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