Monday, 1 August 2016



Long Distance Relationship: PART I

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I am currently sitting in the beautiful sunshine, watching the world go by and wondering what an earth my other half is doing. Yep, I am in a LDR [insert sigh]. Whenever I tell people about my relationship  situation, I often get an 'awwww', a bit of pity and a lot of 'I could never be in a LDR.I am not going to lie, it can be pretty rubbish but you know what, most of the time, I blooming love it.  Admittedly, the travelling backwards and forwards is not ideal and also the large amount of my wage that I spend on First Great Western instead of that amazing pair of heels. However, I think there is a lot of things you can learn from a LDR and in this post I am going to share my conclusions. 

Organisation is key. This comes very very naturally to me but one thing being in a LDR has taught me is that time splitting is vital. It may sound super boring but it means that my time is better spent and I don't spend hours and hours on the sofa [recently this has not been true as I have been gripped by Luther!] I feel that the word splitting has negative connotations but it makes me a lot more proactive and I get to do so much more fun things, winning!

He has his friends, I have my friends and yes even though they do intertwine; we both do our own thing. That is the great thing about a LDR, nothing has to be given up. I still see my girlfriends on a regular basis and never feel like I miss out on much as I would never be one to sacrifice time with my girls. However, I definitely believe quality over quantity, so I think planning quality time together is equally as important. 

Are they worth it? The big question. Even though a LDR may seem scary as its all a bit unknown, I think at the end of the day you need to judge whether its all worth it. Is your precious time and money going to create something that makes you smile even when you aren't together? If the answer is yes, then grab it and go for it. 

It is said that distance makes the heart grow fonder, I guess we will have to wait and see.. 

Charlotte x

20 comments:

  1. This is a really great post and a subject that does have that typical 'aww it must be so hard' reaction but I agree it doesn't have to be that way. Granted I myself am not in a long distance relationship but I can imagine there are pros with the cons and in the end it is just down to if it is worth it for YOU and your partner. I enjoyed reading your take on it so thank you for sharing! Katie xx

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      Charlotte x

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  2. I think long distance can definitely work, it worked for me and my ex for a long time but eventually we spent less and less time together and when we did we felt like we didn't know each other anymore. I think its the kind of thing that requires a lot of work to keep it exciting and interesting. I'm glad its working out for you though :)

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    1. Thanks Clare! Completely agree, it requires ALOT of work!!

      Charlotte x

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  3. I'm in a long distance relationship too! It requires so much work, but it's so worth it. We really put in a lot of effort!

    Stephanie ● Sartorial Diner

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    1. Aw that's so lovely to hear - thank you Stephanie!

      Charlotte x

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  4. You know, I've never before thought about how much those in LDR must need to spend on travel! I love you determine whether it's worth it by whether you've created something special that makes you smile even when you're not together. That's so sweet :) It's true - and I think ultimately, true love prevails!

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    1. Hahaha yes it is costly! I believe it does - are we romantics?!!

      Charlotte x

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  5. You can totally make it work! My husband was living in Canada and me in Malaysia when we met online and it was really tough for years but it worked out for us. LDR definitely need lots of work but hey, all relationships need work. ;-)

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. Aw that's such a lovely story!!! Thank you for sharing :)

      Charlotte x

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  6. I can imagine that distance truly does make the heart grow fonder in a LDR! Haha


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    Anjelique

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      Charlotte x

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  7. I was in a long distance relationship for around 3 years (different countries) and we managed to make it work, and now we are married! LDR is not easy, but if you're committed and honest to each other, then there's no reason for it not to work :)

    Ela BellaWorld

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    1. That's so lovely and great that you made it work!! I definitely think honesty is key!!

      Charlotte x

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  8. Me and my boyfriend have been together for seven years, LDR for the first two. It was worth it, yes, but not easy and I deffo wouldn't do it again! There are too many challenges to being long distance, I'm glad we got through it because it made us stronger in the end, but man, those were not fun times... Thanks for sharing your thoughts, hun! x

    Kay
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    1. It is definitely a learning curve, it's so nice hearing other people that go through it and come out the other side! Thanks for reading Kay!

      Charlotte x

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  9. I honestly loved reading this post, thank you for sharing your honest feelings. I'm so happy for you guys your LDR works out so well! It did for me too, I've been in a relationship for 6 years, of which 2 long distance and that always worked so well, despite everyone assuming it's mission impossible ;) We did recently decided to take a (looooong) break though, but I won't let that influence my opinions on LDR: they do have their advantages and I didn't mind at all being in one :) Thank you again for sharing this Charlotte!
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  10. It is so nice hearing everyones stories! Thank you for reading :)

    Charlotte x

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  11. We did an LDR for three years and now live in our own little house with our lovely little sausage dog so I'm living proof they DO work! I think your doing everything perfectly, good on you!

    Musings & More

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    1. Aw thats fab news! Thank you for reading Emily - you give me hope!

      Charlotte x

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